Parenting With Love And Logic Teaching Children Responsibility By Foster Cline, M.D. & Jim Fay
Monday 6:00am-6:30am
Wednesday 6:00am-6:30am
Friday 2:00pm-2:45pm
With this weeks reading I finished up Part I The Love-and-Logic Parent and started on Part II Love-and-Logic Parenting Pearls. This part of the book has forty-one love-and-logic pearls. It offers advice for handling some of the common disciplinary problems that parents will deal with during their child's first twelve years. This book says that it usually takes one month of love-and-logic parenting to undo one year of tacky parenting. It is a good thing that my girls are only 3 and 5 years old!
The first three Pearls that I got through reading this week was Pearl I - Allowances/Money. There were four rules to follow here: Rule 1 was that children do not earn their allowances. Only pay them for chores when they do our chores if we don't want to do them. Rule 2 is provide the allowance at the same time each week. Rule 3 is never insist that children save the allowance. They can't learn to handle money if they stash it. Rule 4 is as long as they are not engaged in illegal activity, allow children to spend, save, or wast the money any way they see fit.
Pearl 2 is Anger: When It's Appropriate. When our kids do something that affects us directly then it's okay to get angry.
Pearl 3 is Bedtime. We cannot make children go to sleep. God has determined how much sleep kids need and it varies from child to child.
I have taught you the way of wisdom; I have led you in the paths of uprightness. When you walk, your step will not hampered; and if you run, you will not stumble. Proverbs 4:11-12
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Week Three
Parenting With Love and Logic Teaching Children Responsibility By Foster Cline, M.D. and Jim Fay
Monday Oct 17th 6:00am-6:30am
Friday Oct 21st 6:15am-6:30am
This time during my reading, I learned that as parents we gain control through our choices. Sometimes we get so frustrated at our kids trying to get them to stop what they are doing and to come eat or whatever we are wanting them to do. We want to be in control of our kids. We also want them to do what we want them to do when we want them to do it. A way that we can handle not getting so frustrated when it is time to eat is to tell our children that we will be serving dinner for the next thirty minutes and would love for them to come join us. But if not, than we'll hope to see them at breakfast. To establish control we need to concentrate on fighting battles that we know we can win. We must pick areas where we do have control over our kids. Then we need to offer choices in those areas.
Parenting Magazine
Wednesday Oct. 19th 10:20am-10:37am and 2:45pm-3:15pm
7 Mistakes Even Smart Parents Make - Fixed! By Christina Vercelletto
These seven mistakes are classic ones. Most of us have probably done almost, if not all, of them. They are:
1. Registering for every single baby product in existence - or, worse, buying it all yourself. they say instead ask a recent mom what she really used and what she didn't. Otherwise most of the items will never get used. It is okay to register for diaper, lots of diapers.
2. Preparing special meals for picky eaters. To fix this they say to have your child eat one food that you're eating at each meal, or just one each day, or even week.
3. Trying to stop a tantrum. They suggest just to leave. grab the child and find a place for the tantrum to run its course. The reason why is because by removing the audience it takes things down a notch.
4. Overexplaning. The extra info that we like to give often goes right over their heads which may add to frustration for the child. We just need to be short and direct.
5. Keeping children too busy. We need to just pick one or maybe two activites. Free, unstructured, creative play is the most important thing for a yound child.
6. Trolling the internet for health info. We need to look for sites that end in ".gov" or ".org"
7. Giving medicine incorrectly. Focus on the weight-based doing instructions, not age. Instead of spoons, use a medicine measuring device. Also, read labels carefully.
Monday Oct 17th 6:00am-6:30am
Friday Oct 21st 6:15am-6:30am
This time during my reading, I learned that as parents we gain control through our choices. Sometimes we get so frustrated at our kids trying to get them to stop what they are doing and to come eat or whatever we are wanting them to do. We want to be in control of our kids. We also want them to do what we want them to do when we want them to do it. A way that we can handle not getting so frustrated when it is time to eat is to tell our children that we will be serving dinner for the next thirty minutes and would love for them to come join us. But if not, than we'll hope to see them at breakfast. To establish control we need to concentrate on fighting battles that we know we can win. We must pick areas where we do have control over our kids. Then we need to offer choices in those areas.
Parenting Magazine
Wednesday Oct. 19th 10:20am-10:37am and 2:45pm-3:15pm
7 Mistakes Even Smart Parents Make - Fixed! By Christina Vercelletto
These seven mistakes are classic ones. Most of us have probably done almost, if not all, of them. They are:
1. Registering for every single baby product in existence - or, worse, buying it all yourself. they say instead ask a recent mom what she really used and what she didn't. Otherwise most of the items will never get used. It is okay to register for diaper, lots of diapers.
2. Preparing special meals for picky eaters. To fix this they say to have your child eat one food that you're eating at each meal, or just one each day, or even week.
3. Trying to stop a tantrum. They suggest just to leave. grab the child and find a place for the tantrum to run its course. The reason why is because by removing the audience it takes things down a notch.
4. Overexplaning. The extra info that we like to give often goes right over their heads which may add to frustration for the child. We just need to be short and direct.
5. Keeping children too busy. We need to just pick one or maybe two activites. Free, unstructured, creative play is the most important thing for a yound child.
6. Trolling the internet for health info. We need to look for sites that end in ".gov" or ".org"
7. Giving medicine incorrectly. Focus on the weight-based doing instructions, not age. Instead of spoons, use a medicine measuring device. Also, read labels carefully.
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Week Two
Parenting With Love And Logic By Foster Cline, M.D. and Jim Fay
Monday Oct 10th 10:00am-10:45am
Tuesday Oct 11th 7:30pm-7:50pm
Friday Oct 14th 4:00pm-4:45pm
Oh my goodness, this book is full of some much to take in. I am really enjoying what I am learning. Not only will it help me with my own daughters but it will also help with how I handle my students. I am learning that children's mistakes are their opportunities. The best solution to any problem lives within the skin of the person who owns the problem. As parents we can not let our children's problems become our problems. Our children need to know that with God's help they can always look first to themselves for the answers to their problems. We need to be setting limits through thinking words instead of fighting words. It has been proven that kids that are thinking cannot fight us at the same time. An example is when a child says something loud and unkind to the parents and fighting words might be "Don't talk to me in that tone of voice!" Thinking words would be "You sound upset. I'll be glad to listen when your voice is as soft as mine is." This is something that my husband and I both need to work on. I know that it is going to take time for us to get us to talking in questions and in thinking words instead of fighting words but we'll get it.
Monday Oct 10th 10:00am-10:45am
Tuesday Oct 11th 7:30pm-7:50pm
Friday Oct 14th 4:00pm-4:45pm
Oh my goodness, this book is full of some much to take in. I am really enjoying what I am learning. Not only will it help me with my own daughters but it will also help with how I handle my students. I am learning that children's mistakes are their opportunities. The best solution to any problem lives within the skin of the person who owns the problem. As parents we can not let our children's problems become our problems. Our children need to know that with God's help they can always look first to themselves for the answers to their problems. We need to be setting limits through thinking words instead of fighting words. It has been proven that kids that are thinking cannot fight us at the same time. An example is when a child says something loud and unkind to the parents and fighting words might be "Don't talk to me in that tone of voice!" Thinking words would be "You sound upset. I'll be glad to listen when your voice is as soft as mine is." This is something that my husband and I both need to work on. I know that it is going to take time for us to get us to talking in questions and in thinking words instead of fighting words but we'll get it.
Sunday, October 9, 2011
Week One
Parenting With Love And Logic Teaching Children Responsibility By Foster Cline, M.D. and Jim Fay
Monday Oct 3rd 10:15-10:35am
Tuesday Oct 4th 9:30-10:15am
Friday Oct 7th 9:30-10:00am
The first few chapters that I have gotten through have been eye opening on how to raise our children. I have already learned a lot and enjoy the book.
They tell us that we need to let our children fail as young children. The price they pay of what they learn as children isn't as much as if we don't let them fail and they have to figure it out when they get older. It will hurt and cost more when they are older to learn a lesson then it does when they are a little kid. As parents we want to protect our kids and not want them fail but that is not helping them be successful in life.
Monday Oct 3rd 10:15-10:35am
Tuesday Oct 4th 9:30-10:15am
Friday Oct 7th 9:30-10:00am
The first few chapters that I have gotten through have been eye opening on how to raise our children. I have already learned a lot and enjoy the book.
They tell us that we need to let our children fail as young children. The price they pay of what they learn as children isn't as much as if we don't let them fail and they have to figure it out when they get older. It will hurt and cost more when they are older to learn a lesson then it does when they are a little kid. As parents we want to protect our kids and not want them fail but that is not helping them be successful in life.
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