Week Five

Parenting With Love And Logic Teaching Children Responsibility  By Foster Cline, M.D. & Jim Fay

Tuesday Nov 1st 10:23-10:38AM,  2:15-2:45PM
Wednesday Nov 2nd   6:00-6:30AM   10:18-10:38AM


In this week I continued reading about the forty pearls. I read Pearl 4 through Pearl 9 this week.
Pearl 4 talked about bossiness. They say to handle our children that become bossy to us is to have a good one-liner or two ready for immediate use. We just need to smile at them and tell them nice try and what do you think happens in our family when people get really bossy and not to answer that now and to just think about it.
Pearl 5 is over the back-seat battles in the car. Basically they say for older kids is to tell them that the parent driving cannot focus on the driving and that maybe the kids need to get some air so we need to pull over. Tell the kids to get out and that you will be waiting for them up the road and maybe by the time the kids get there they will be feeling better. Of course the kids will just be in shock.
Pearl 6 is about chores. Parents need to show the kids that doing chorse is fun and to have a good attitude while doing them. Parents need to include the children when dividing up the chores. Let the children pick which ones they would like to do this week. That way they cannot complain of the chores being unfair.
Pearl 7 talks about when kids don't want to go to church. Parents need to make genuine statements that the children can hear like "I 'm sure glad I have my church. I enjoy my friends and always get such needed encouragement." Kids sometimes get bored because they have heard the same story over and over. So we need to encourage the kids.
Pearl 8 is crisis situations. It teaches us that first crises are generally temporary and second, almost no crisis must be dealt with immediately. Sometimes what we think is a crisis really isn't. Just doing something isn't always the right answer sometimes we need to take time and think about what they right thing is to do.
Pearl 9 is about discipline in public - strategic training session. Kids think their parents don't dare do anything to them because they are out in public. So when our children act up the book suggest to ask the child if they would rather go to their room instead of shop. The child doesn't believe that you will drive all the way back home but that is when you call your spouse or friend (because you have already given them a heads up that you might call) to come get your child and take them to their room until you are done shopping. You could also do this with going to the car instead of all the way home.